Sunday, September 08, 2013

setting up for success. [or at least attempting!]

things that are working
 planning in fun.  outings with friends, dinners with family, date nights.  whatever.  because i find that if i don't, then nothing good happens with my [limited] free time.

 hiring help.  last weekend, things actually didn't end so well:  babysitter/mother's helper candidate #2 no-showed [the NERVE] and on a day when i really reaaaaaaally was looking forward to a break.  it was bad, i melted down, etc.  but this weekend -- my call weekend -- has been much better, and now i have three [three!] seemingly reliable people* who i have met and who i have gotten to watch interact with annabel that i can start to depend on.

i absolutely still get to spend most of my weekends with annabel, but have a built-in 2-3 hr break in addition to her naptimes.  until the boards, i plan on doing this on both days when one of us is on call [ie, most weekends].  after that, i'll go down to one.  probably.

i still feel guilty that i am failing at Project Supermom, and i know i have things really REALLY easy in many ways.  but with all that said -- with the help, i'm much much happier and more relaxed.  and therefore, a better and more engaged parent [and, importantly, wife and PERSON] the rest of the time.  so, there's that.  also, after 11 years of medical training, i'm done with martyrhood.  more on that another time, perhaps.

 resting more.  yes - probably one of the reasons for fewer posts this past week.  but i do feel like i've given myself more permission to just CHILL, and that is a good thing.  for the most part, i have been running every other morning, not every morning -- meaning more sleep.  and i have tried to plan some really simple dinners that will still provide reasonable nutrition for the 3 [3.5?] of us.

fun stuff: the details
since i received a couple of requests to share exactly what i have been planning in, here's a list:

dinner with family.  last sunday night, my cousins and their kids came over for a casual burger night.  fun!  and tonight my inlaws and a's grandparents [S-I-L, B-I-L, niece, nephew, bebe, poppy] are coming over for takeout that josh will pickup.  minimal work, but still totally enjoyable.  and one of the major benefits of having moved down here!

play dates.  last weekend, i got to meet up with the lovely JT and her little one at cafe bambini, a totally adorable coffee house/toddler play space.   it was wonderful!  and in a few minutes, i'm headed to the park with my S-I-L and her kids to meet up with another friend and her 2.  in addition to the few people i know here, i'm looking forward to trying to meet more with similarly-aged kids.  that part IS challenging, though.

 other kid outing ideas:
- to a bookstore story hour
- to swim class [annabel is going to start next week i am hoping!]
- to gymboree [though we don't have a convenient one here]
- to local museums or zoos

prenatal yoga.  i haven't started yet, but have planned on signing up for a tuesday night class that begins in a couple of weeks and lasts through december.  and i've hired a babysitter, so josh can go out that night [or work out, or finish work late -- which is the most likely] on those nights.  i'm hoping it will allow me to meet other moms with young children in addition to those currently expecting.

i also kind of want to join a book club, but not until after boards!

 visits or travel.  i am going to try to lure as many family members/friends here as possible all winter long.  hoping that warmth, sunshine, and a VERY sweet girl are enough to get people to come!

just simple family activities.  neighborhood run with josh + a followed by a jump in our pool - an amazing morning.

 entertainment.  i feel lame for admitting this, but it's so easy for me to fritter away time on the internet [and feel so EMPTY afterwards] that it's been so much better to plan to watch a tv show or movie.  i do love keeping up with a handful of blogs, but it's the facebook/random surfing that is just so addictive and yet SO unfulfilling.  working on transitioning to dedicated reading/movie/tv/etc time.

* based on references as well as demeanor during the mother's helper sessions

as always, a few recent pix:

drawing.  new fave activity.

love this pic.

eating at IKEA.  it's very serious business.

cooking with faux-food from IKEA.

MIA style

just a LITTLE happy.