on my own

November 3, 2010

7 days of solitude
okay, perhaps that’s a bit melodramatic. but i alluded to josh going abroad in a recent post — and as of now, he is on a plane headed for nicaragua (via miami), and i am not. in our 8 years together, this week will probably be the longest we have been apart (!).


i thought about going, but he is going to be spending most of his time in a hospital working with local surgeons, and i’m not sure what i’d do all day — not to mention the fact that since this resolution hasn’t really gotten off the ground, i’m not exactly fluent in the native tongue. plus, i’d have to take vacation time — and i’d rather save that for a trip together when josh isn’t hanging out in the OR.

and so, he’s there, and i’m here. of course, i will fret about him daily. and i already miss him! but i also want to try to make the most of my alone time. i am going to try to use this time as a sort of personal retreat, because i realize that spending the time just waiting for him to come back (and worrying about his safety) would be unproductive and unwise.

things i plan to do with this time
✔ get a lot of work done on my grant!
✔ go to a yoga class this weekend
✔ massage! (already booked for saturday)
✔ catch up with girlfriends
✔ make a point of cooking for myself sometimes
✔ spend some peaceful nights reading

i have no idea how military spouses — or those with business-traveler partners, for that matter — handle it! my heart goes out to you. any tips are welcome.

all right — off to clinic!

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11.2.10

workout: 4 miles on the TM at 9:06/mi, 0.5% incline. i am actually following a 5K training plan right now — details to come! unfortunately, it’s dark out here past 7am, so i’ve been doing more runs indoors. i can’t wait for daylight savings to kick in!

real simple – week 4 this little recipe challenge is nearing its end! i think i only have 3 left to do. last night josh and i went out for sushi, but on monday we worked together to make this balsamic glazed pork with apples.

theirs:


mine:


we actually used sprouted lentils because i bought them by mistake from the bulk bins at whole foods. they reminded me of lima beans — but since i like lima beans, that was fine. i actually really liked the simple salad and would make it again for a healthy dish without the pork! to the leftover lentils, i added some golden raisins and this made a great lunch to take to work.

KA+TN: i didn’t work on my grant yesterday because it was josh’s last day here, but i am ready to GO on this starting now. i will detail my progress in this section (not because you are all dying to read about it, but because i think it will be motivating!)

6 Comments

  • Reply lee March 10, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    One of my good friends has a husband in the army and I don&#39t know how she does it either. He&#39s gone for months at a time. And, to top it off, they are stationed in the middle of nowhere, Louisiana!

  • Reply Rachel March 10, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    You can do it! Martin and I have been married for 2 months and are still 3500 miles apart! Hey, it&#39s only been 6 years out of our 6.5 years together that we&#39ve been long distance! hahaha You just have to focus on the things you are doing. And, when he comes home, you&#39ll appreciate that time together that much more.

  • Reply Lu March 10, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    Being apart isn&#39t fun. At all. Just keep yourself busy and keep your schedule normal. It will help the time pass. I spent 6 months without the hubby while he was deployed. I did have a very entertaining 2-3 year old for that time though. It&#39ll be over before you know it.

  • Reply khar March 10, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    I&#39m usually the one gone on business trips while my husband is home. He catches up on movies while I&#39m gone since I&#39m not a big movie person.

  • Reply Anonymous March 10, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    Sarah, right now I&#39m at home with 4 month old twins and my husband travels EVERY week for work…sometimes just for the day but sometimes for a week at a time. I literally COUNT the hours until he comes back and stalk his flight status while he&#39s on his way home – because I miss the heck out of him and I NEED HELP! Take my advice, ENJOY the time to yourself. You won&#39t have much of it when little ones arrive:)

    Lisa M

  • Reply MelissaHall March 10, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    My husband deploys constantly. He is gone right now in Korea, will be back for a week and then heads to Afghanistan for a year! I liken it to crossing the Grand Canyon on a tightrope. Take it one step at a time, don&#39t look to the end or you are screwed! Seriously though, you are doing exactly the right things. I always plan things to do for me when he is gone and make sure life progresses, both for me and my daughters!

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