Sunday, May 01, 2016

Conference Report: Day 3

I really enjoy going to conferences (if you cannot tell from my last post), and feel lucky to go to 1-2 per year.  I get to be a non- distracted adult for once.  I control my day; I am only in charge of MYSELF!  I get to learn and connect and have interesting discussions (both medical and non).  I am always ready to go home by the end, but -- as I mentioned -- I'm so glad that these events are a part of my career.  Also, I see physicians in their 60s, 70s, and beyond at these things and am blown away that am going to get to do this for so long and through different stages of life.  I always picture myself + current colleagues as silver-haired ladies in suits.  It occurred to me today that I will probably shrink someday to 4'11".

Ahh well, I will also still probably wear heels.

ANYWAY.  So it's been great.  Today I went to conferences from 7 am - 10 am, then took a running break (5 mi on hotel treadmill), and the went back from 1 pm - 6 pm.  Interestingly I am much more interested in posters and research findings than I ever was as a resident or fellow.  After this conference, I am even more excited that my career path has steered me back to academia (through the residency component), at least in some way.

Tonight = dinner with former (and missed!) Duke endo friends, and then perhaps an appearance at the Duke Peds alumni reception.

Tomorrow = HOME!

crab cakes @ watertable
(I am sure there are even better ones elsewhere, 
but this was very convenient, and it was cold, and they were delicious!)


Tomorrow:  May Goals

Also, later (post idea): How I like to do conferences: top 10 thoughts/ideas

Friday, April 29, 2016

notes from the road: Baltimore

. . . and a hotel bar.

I am in Baltimore for a meeting -- the Pediatric Endocrine Society, plus some of the offerings from Pediatric Academic Society, held concurrently.  Today I attended a leadership training course, because of my newfound responsibilities with our residency, and also because it just sounded interesting.  It was actually really great, and I got a lot out of the segments on emotional intelligence, conflict management, and providing feedback.

There was also a time management section, but . . . well, honestly I already consider myself a time management ninja (THANK YOU LV, and also David Allen too, really).

I am currently sitting in a hotel bar, nursing a glass of sauvignon blanc.  This is glorious on multiple levels.  I think I may actually dine in the hotel restaurant . . . alone.  Josh does this all the time on conferences -- checking out a local restaurant alone.  I never do.  And I suppose I might venture out into the city, but our hotel restaurant looks at least halfway decent* and I'm lazy.

I miss the kids, but having 1-2 work trips per year is perfect for me.  I really enjoy them.  I love the opportunity to network, learn (& take copious notes!), and relax once in a while.  I feel so lucky that my career path allows for these little mini-retreats.

* and they have crab cakes

Monday, April 25, 2016

Day 7/7 / the sleep dance

Today started out so nicely . . .

Really peaceful & productive morning - beginning with barre3

. . . and actually, it wasn't a bad day overall.  BUT it ended terribly.  Seeking practical advice.  Here's our normal nighttime routine:

6:45p - warm milks for both kids (they eat dinner early -- like at 5 -- so this way no one is hungry before bed)

7p - prep for bedtime, both kids (teeth, pajamas, etc)

7:10p - read books with both kids in Cameron's room.  Sometimes Annabel will stay in her own room, but usually she really wants to be included.  However, this is understood to be his book time, and he sits on my lap for the duration.

7:30p - put C to bed.  (Sing with him, turn on his sound machine/ melody, place in crib).  Usually this goes well.  Smoothly, even!  Sometimes it might be a little later (7:45, 7:50, at the latest close to 8), but on work nights usually it's 7:30p.

7:35p - read to Annabel in her room.  

7:55p - let her watch a short video on the phone

8:00p - A to bed (and I will humor her by sleeping on her floor "for a little bit", which is less than 5 minutes because she falls asleep almost instantaneously

It's a nicely choreographed little dance.  When it works.  But today I suspect that C napped too late, and he was 100% Not. Having. It. when I put him to bed at 7:30p.  (45 minute protest with me intermittently going in to tell him "it's bedtime, Cameron, I love you, but we have to go night-night now."  

So here's the thing:  I think that actually, A probably needs to go to bed before C, on a physiologic level.  He still naps 2-3 hours.  He is only 2 years (and 2 months), so this is appropriate.  A hasn't napped since she turned 3, but I know she is usually really tired at the end of the day because a) cranky and b) if we drive anywhere after 5 pm she will 100% fall asleep, even if it's only a 10 minute trip.

How, though, can I orchestrate this when I am alone?  I know that A craves her alone time with me, and I cannot imagine her taking the news lightly that C is going to bed after her.  

Perhaps the answer is just . . . no marathon naps for C!  But that does have a downside too (dysphoric nap interruption syndrome - I don't know if that's a real thing, but it should be).  


Ps: tomorrow --> no more call!  Hooray!

Pps: Silicon Valley is back on!