Friday, April 21, 2017


Hi.  I didn't mean to disappear, but . . . you know.  Call happens.  It actually wasn't a terribly hectic week, but something about it just saps my creative energy.  But I'm off today!  SO, hi.   Thus far I have:

a) slept in

b) come to the kids' school for their school Shabbat (apparently a lot of parents go, who knew?) - I was actually assigned to take some videos for a pre-K graduation project.  Apparently I am a volunteer now.  Once in a while, anyway.

c) gone to get my TSA Pre-Check!  I honestly though this was some arduous process and only meant for fancy businesspeople.  Um, no.  It's $85 for 5 years' worth of sailing through the airport security line, and best part - kids under 12 come with a registered member, FREE!  I'm going to be taking both kids on a flight by myself in a few weeks and I decided to look into Pre-Check to make our airport experience easier.

It was not a big deal at all to book an appointment and then show up with my passport and ID.  And now it's done.  Yay :)

Life has been flowing along.  I have been continuing my social-media-free existence (I am not counting blogs here, as I still browse through & comment on my favorite sites).  It is actually really surprising to me how little I miss Instagram.  I thought I'd be in withdrawal but . . . no.  And off of it, I'm realizing how many 'commercials' seemed to sneak their way in there and take up residence in my brain.  I feel oddly free.  And not really all that disconnected (probably because I just don't know what I'm missing!).

Random links & recommendations:

Book:  I read Deep Work by Cal Newport on a recent trip.  It was not necessarily so applicable to my job (is medical practice really all that 'Deep'?  Most of the time I'd argue no, but it's still hard and important).  That said, it was full of interesting ideas.  I didn't agree with every word, but I'd recommend it as food for thought.

Podcast:  I'm halfway through S-Town.  YESS this has this intriguing addictive quality that was present in Serial's Season 1 (2 didn't do it for me).   Highly recommend.

New planner option on the horizon:  Full Focus Planner.  Hmmm, intriguing.  I am actually not really making the most of my Hobonichi lately (I know, horrors!).  Every few years I get the urge to change up my system.  Could it be time!?  (Hopefully not in April, but maybe for next year).

Movies:  We saw both Passengers and Arrival recently (both rented at home).  Both recent sci-fi movies.  One (Arrival) with critical acclaim.  I actually liked Passengers much more!  It was such interesting setup and I think the acting was great.

Hoping to be back more frequently.  I keep feeling like I have to wait until I have something earth-shattering to say before I jump on, but then I remember that some of my favorite blogs lately are filled with some of the most mundane details, and so I should probably just lower the bar.


Annabel & her allowance!  Beginning at age 5 we're giving her $3/week.  We'll see how this goes (and if we can remember)

Monday, April 10, 2017

to Annabel at 5

Dear Annabel, 

First of all . . . I can’t believe how fast we have gotten here.  I remember your birthday (you know, the very first one!) so vividly that it seems recent.  You came out with a sweetness and an intensity apparent in your eyes, and neither have wavered over the past 5 years.

You are a force.  You are creative, dramatic, and opinionated.  You have ideas and are desperate to express them — when words do not suffice, you turn to art or dance or song.  You love crafting elaborate stories — in your drawing, in pretend play, and with your friends.  

You sparkle.  You end most of your dances with a split or another equally daring pose. You may not always get along with Cameron, but when you see him at school it’s like you’ve spotted a celebrity (and I’m pretty sure the feeling is mutual).  Even if sharing isn’t always easy, you can be a caring and protective big sister.  

Your powers of concentration are fantastic. You will focus on a drawing or craft project for an hour, breathing deeply so that I can tell your brain waves are off somewhere beyond the pale.  

You are grown up:  in the way you articulate ideas, in your thought patterns, and even in your teeth (I can’t believe you lost the first one before 5!).  It is FUN to be with you at this age — taking you on an errand is now a pleasure and I look forward to having many adventures together, both one-on-one and as a family.

But you are still my baby.  I love that you still want to snuggle with me (or daddy) every night.  I even sort of love that you cried when we had to leave after your school birthday celebration, though that was a much more bittersweet experience.  I love that you give big unselfconscious kisses and full body hugs.  

I have taken to call you “My First Baby” sometimes, because we both like it, and it’s true.  You will always hold this position in my life and in my heart.  I love you Annabel - you are wonderful and have brought so much to our family.  I am not going to wish for time to stop, because a) it’s impossible and b) watching you grow is a joy.  Instead I will try to savor your childhood as much as I can.  I can tell it’s going to go quickly.

With love,

Your Mother (aka: “Mom” “Mommy” "Mom-MEEEE" and once in a while, still,  “Mama”)



Monday, April 03, 2017

80%, and updates


My brand new schedule begins today.  I am now working 80% time, with one official weekday off every week.  I am really, really excited.  I used to schedule a random day off months in advance and look forward to it that entire time -- and then, often something messed it up anyway (because when you only have one 'swing' day in a several month period, it ends up getting eaten up -- makeup for a sick day, or the like).

I still haven't figured out exactly what I am going to do with our childcare.  The kids are in school 8:45 - 2, so it's not like I won't get some time to myself.  I think we will basically change it up on a week-to-week basis.  This week, our nanny will have the day off in exchange for working those extra hours this weekend; another week, I'll have her come in 12p - 8p so Josh and I can sneak in a date night.  Hopefully things will evolve naturally.  It just doesn't make sense to keep the normal hours every week when I can easily take the kids to school.

Things I hope to use this time for:

- Writing more

- Going to kids' appointments (dr, dentist, etc) without having to squeeze them into very hectic days

- Having one-on-one time with the kids (ie nanny has one kid, I take the other - esp Annabel but C alone too as he gets older)

- Working out without having to wake up so early!  Maybe going to some more workout classes instead of just running / doing stuff at home.

- Keeping things a little more organized at home (though no, I don't want to spend all my time sorting toys so I will have to hold myself back in this realm because it can be oddly tempting)

- Reading

- Getting a little more involved with the school (especially as A enters our local public school kindergarten next fall)

- Doing our yearly photo albums sooner than October of the following year

- Getting a monthly pedicure (maybe even a manicure b/c YOLO)

Things that will also probably happen:

- Some work projects, but will try to keep this to minimum because I have to keep reminding myself I AM NOT GETTING PAID for this time . . .

If anyone has made a similar transition, thoughts / suggestions are welcome!

Happenings this past weekend:
A's bday party!!  It was awesome.
Lots of unplugged time.
Friend time.
Radiohead concert (well, that was Thursday, but close enough) - and yes it was great!

Party (held at Miami Children's Museum)

Radiohead fans